Making your ceremony unique

 

‘It is your day so we do it your way’

Our focus is on making it possible for couples to have the day they are dreaming of. Getting in touch with the relevant registrar as early as possible helps to achieve this.

Your civil marriage ceremony is a very personal occasion and all Argyll and Bute Registration staff want to help you make your ceremony special and tailored to your requirements.  

 

Handfast

 

Hand-Fasting

Hand-fasting is an ancient Celtic/Medieval custom, especially common in Ireland and Scotland, in which a man and woman  came together at the start of their marriage relationship to declare of their own free will that they intended to marry.

While facing each other, the couple will join hands while a cloth  is tied around their hands in a knot. This is where the term "tie the knot" came from. Couples often choose to use a cloth made of a particular clan tartan or a specific colour of cloth symbolising something important to them.

Hand-fasting is suitable for use in both weddings and civil partnership ceremonies.

 

 

 

Candle

 

Unity Candle Ceremony

This ceremony involves the bride and groom or civil partners, using individual candles which they will in turn use to light one unity candle. Family and friends will then be invited forward to light their own candles from the unity candle flame in a symbolic act of togetherness and the merging of both families. This ceremony is suitable for all civil ceremonies. The Unity Candle Ceremony is often used in naming ceremonies too as a gesture of unity, symbolizing that those present will always surround the child(ren) in a circle of love.

 

 

 

Handfast

The Sand Ceremony

This ceremony requires the couple to provide three containers of coloured sand – one colour for party 1,one for Party 2 and one for the celebrant.

The three containers of sand are then poured into a fourth larger container at different points in the ceremony, each symbolising a different aspect of the couple, their relationship and their families. The sand then forms a pattern in the container, which is kept by the couple as a keepsake of their day.   

 

 

 

 

Handfast

Including children in a ceremony

Children are an important part of every family, may it be your own child, nephew, niece or even just a child that is important yo you

 

 

 

 

Oathing stone

Oathing Stone Ceremony

The Oathing Stone is an old Scottish tradition where the couple place their hands upon a stone while saying their wedding vows.
Taken from the ancient Celtic custom of "setting an oath in stone", inclusion of the oathing stone ceremony in the vows can be deeply moving.
During the declaration of wedding vows or civil partnership promises, the couple hold the Oathing Stone, together in their hands. It is believed that holding the stone during the vows in turn casts or sets them in stone.

Any stone can be used for this purpose. One collected by the couple from a favourite place i.e. beach, local beauty spot etc would be appropriate. The stone should then be washed and scrubbed and treated with almond oil then wiped dry in order to give it a satin sheen (if desired).
The stone can also be engraved with a Celtic knot etching, the date of the ceremony and your initials if you wish, although it isn't necessary.

 

 

 

Rose

 

The Rose Ceremony

For this ceremony the couple needs to give each other a rose.

This can involve the bestman/ witness or other person bringing the roses forward and doing a reading.   

A fitting example being Robert Burns' 'My Luve is like a Red, Red Rose' before handing them to the couple who will then exchange them during this ceremony.
Some couples prefer to opt for a straightforward exchange of the roses during the ceremony and others have even chosen to involve their children in the ceremony. 
The rose ceremony is particularly apt for Valentine's weddings but works equally well throughout the rest of the year. 

This ceremony is suitable for both weddings and civil partnership ceremonies.

 

 

Amy and Ailsa

 

Love Letter and Box Ceremony

This ceremony involves the couple writing a love letter to each other in the weeks before the ceremony. They will also prepare a special box filled with romantic items such as a CD of their favourite songs, photographs, pieces of poetry and other mementoes.

On the day of the ceremony the box is positioned at the front of the ceremony room. At a chosen part in the ceremony they will each be asked to place their love letters in the box which will then be sealed shut.

Each of the couple keeps one of the two keys to ensure that one cannot open it without the other.

This ceremony is suitable for both wedding and civil partnership ceremonies.  It can also be adapted to make it suitable for Naming Ceremonies.

The box will then be opened on the couple's first anniversary, or an anniversary of their choosing.

 

 

Handfast

 

Ring Warming Ceremony

A ring warming is when you give your loved ones the opportunity to hold the couple’s wedding bands with a wish, blessing or prayer for your marriage.

By the time your rings make it on to the fingers of the couple they will be saturated with the love of their friends and family

 

 

 

 

 

Quaich

 

The Quaich Ceremony

A Quaich ceremony is a Scottish traditional two handled cup.  The Quaich is often referred to as the  love cup as you each take a handle to take a drink,

showing you trust one another to share the cup. You can fill the cup with a drink of your choice, usually whisky or you can combine two drinks symbolising the two of you becoming one.  They also used the Quaich at the reception for their first toast together.

Symbolic of the sharing between the couple, it's an ancient vessel used by two families or clans, to celebrate a bond, with each leader partaking of the offered drink.

The Party 1 drinks from the Quaich and then offers it to his Party 2. The order in which it is then passed is purely a matter of choice although historically it would have been the leaders of each family or clan who would have passed the Quaich around.

 

 

 

Handfast

 

Pinning of the Tartan

Following the proclamation that they were now married, the pinning of the tartan would take place. Each family would customize this, depending on whether the Party 2 or the Party 1 was being accepted into the other’s clan.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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